My W loves to go out with her single friends, and has been for a while now. My stance is to let go and even encourage it. Seems like she'll have to get it out of her system one way or another.

Curious thing is, I think she's starting to see everyone else's reality... The single life isn't all it's cracked up to be, and many of them are not any happier than the married folks. W's closest GF, who is the same age as her, expresses her frustration at the lack of suitable mates out there. Go figure.

Doing things together is tough when their heart isn't in it. I know this first hand. Still, I think it's important to do some of these things so as to maintain a connection. No connection means you got nothing.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl