So here's where I'm at...Love Must Be Tough was suggested to me when all this began. I tried it and it did no good. It just reaffirmed to H that I don't truly care about him, was more in love with the idea of him than him, etc. Which is why, in my opinion, he loves when I'm kind, flirtatious, and flattering to him. To implore LMBT now scares me as he's responding so well to the others.
I do think I've changed, but not completely. There is a co-dependency factor that I need to work on (i/e my day is not made or broken over whether or not he texts, calls, etc). Is it putting myself out there too much then to do the things he seems to be liking? The love and miss you's, compliments, even the physical interaction? Is he cake eating? And, curious, do any of you view what he's doing as cheating? Or not since he's filed for divorce, declared our marriage over, and moved out?
Me: 26 H: 28 T:8 M:5 D:2 BD:4/1/13 Separated 6/6/13 Filed separation 6/21/13 Waiting for D papers to be served, H says filed
