Things starting in right direction, NEED TIPS!

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Thank you both again for the replies. This is a great step in the right direction.

Yesterday went fairly well. I did have to deal with a lot of emotions though that I wasn't exactly prepaired for. First one was when we went to pick up her stuff from her Friend Rich's where she has been staying. I almost had a sickening feeling as we approached the house. It was like visiting a place where you had a terrible accident.

I actually couldn't believe the sqauller that she and these people were living in. I mean I have lived in a house with 7 other guys during college, but no where like this. It made make a bit angery that she would live in a place like that instead of with me. I don't understand how she would feel better there than at home with me. I did get through it and carried all her stuff out (which filled up her van) like a friend would do.

When we got home we sorted out her stuff and started washing them and then went to her favorite bar hangout. It was great she wanted to bring me there to meet some of her friends. Things were goind well until 2 younger guy friends of hers came in (one is Rich's bother). She paid so much attention to them and seemed to ignore me a bit (turned away from me to talk with them). She hugged them and was even a bit flirty with them. I did get a bit quiet and reserved until they let, it was like jealousy and resentment welling up inside me. My W noticed and asked about it. We talked about it and I told her my feeling in a non-threating way. She at first seemed upset, but we talked it through and I explained normally I wouldn't be like that but circumstances had a big part of it. I think she finally understood, especially when I tried to explain if the rolls were reversed that she would be pissed.

When they left thing became normal again for both of us, I didn't tell her but she acted different too. It was a great night after that.

We went shopping afterward to get a few things, and we started one ritual of getting a new CD that we pick out (Me one time, her the next) When we got home we sat were in bed watching TV for a while. She actually wore the nice sexy slip I got her to bed. She did give me a nice backrub that I asked for. Nothing beyond that, but I hope soon.

The thing is that even though she is here it is very difficult to deal with the emotions. They just don't go away and are still there. I can't believe I still feel some resentment and betrayal. I even wonder if I am going to like the person my W has become. I know I need to have patience for the sitch to calm down a lot, but this is as hard as DB'ing to get her here.

Any thoughts or tips on this would be helpful.