Seems pretty early to start saying you've turned the corner. I hope you're right, but I wouldn't count on it. These things tend to have a lot of ups and downs.
His questions about not being sure you've changed, that is dead on. Have you? I don't think so....at least not yet. You are just scratching the surface, and you really need to be focusing on that. Otherwise, even if your H comes home, you'll end up back here.
Yes, we all come here with the goal of keeping our M together....but that isn't just about getting your spouse to come home. It's about resolving the issues that caused the break in the first place.
On the EA, my advice is to back away from that. He's not going to break that off at this point, not in my opinion. If he gets to the point where he wants to come home, then you can have that discussion. Right now, any pressure is going to make him run. Have you read the analogy about feeding the squirrel?
Opening up seems to be working, as is validating, so continue that when you can...but also, and I know I'm sounding like a broken record here, work on YOU. Dig into those issues...where they come from, why they are, and how to change them.
