subguy, I have been a person who always acted out of emotion, lashing out, moving, changing jobs, usually because someone else was not doing what I thought they should. If I just changed one more thing, then I would be happy.
I was the unhappy person and I was the common denominator in all those situations. Hmmmm
Throughout my sitch I have had those feelings of being unsettled, needing to change something. The changes included, selling the house, moving away either within AZ or going back to my home state :0, going back to school, changing career tracks, and filing for divorce. As I've learned more about me, I realize that this is not ME coming up with these ideas, it's fear. Fear of letting my life unfold in front of me, fear of not having control, fear of facing my demons, fear of feeling disrespected.
This is my H, Bug. Very interesting..."I will be happy when, or if...". And he is not.