I amvlate to the conversation, but, from things I have read many WAS' s truly convince themselves they are right in leaving. They blame the LBS for pushing them to leaving bc of all of the "mistakes" and hurts the LBS caused. Some WASs even convince themselves the kids will support them in leaving bc the kids will want them to be happy. It truly is a fog they are in.....they just want to be free and convince themselves of al the reasons they deserve to be "happy".

If you like to read and have time "This is not the story you think it is...a season of unlikey happiness" by Laura Munson. Her husband left her and she handled it in a way similar to DB techniques...she goes through many of the excuses her husband gave for leaving.

Also "love must be tough" by Dobson has some good ideas on why marriages fall apart and what causes WASs actions. A reason I'd never heard of in any other books: loss of respect for LBS. I read this book yesterday while at work....that reason hit home for me, I think it is unfortunately true for my marriage.

Hope you have a good week.

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope