Emotional Connection and Attraction

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Maybe it's time to do something different. Have you done anything to incite any passion in her?

This may seem like an elementary question, but what do you suggest I do to incite passion in my sitch?

What does intimacy and passion look like to you?

What's your thoughts on the separation recommendation? (a quick reminder that W did separate last May for 6 weeks)

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So this weekend went well.

W wanted to go to some places for ideas on home decor for our house.

The puppy thing came back up again.

W offered to massage my sore arm last night while we watched TV. She kissed my hand a couple times.

We laid in bed yesterday morning and I caressed her face and hair. At one point I asked her "does this make you uncomfortable?" She said "no" and seemed to enjoy it. I do stuff like this often.

She made me a special breakfast for our anniversary on Saturday.

This morning she left for work, gave me a kiss, and said "I Love you". (the "i love you's" have been used sparingly lately)

Is little stuff like this ^^^^ not intimacy? I'm not sure what intimacy looks like to my W, I haven't asked her that, but I will.

We took kids for a walk Sunday. They were complaining about a bunch of things. W said "maybe we should be thinking about how lucky and blessed we are in this family, sometimes your just never happy". I had to bite my tongue.

I understand this is a very naive (and possibly stupid) thing to say, but I almost don't believe my W when she said she didn't think she'd fear losing me.

Despite our issues we're still best friends, she still "loves" me. She still contacts me numerous times throughout the day for mundane things, she still wants to do things together (see above about our weekend). How does someone have no issue with losing that? I know she's confused....I mean her major reasoning statement during our R talk was that she "wanted to crave someone". It almost sounds immature. You'd think she would have to understand that finding someone to crave wouldn't be difficult. Its all the qualities that she says I already have that are the difficult things to find.

I may be trying to rationalize the irrational...I don't know.