New to This - An English Man In Trouble

[Hadlee58]

Well a quick update on my situation:
I have just returned from 2 weeks on holiday with my wife and kids and we had a great time, a couple of minor issues along the way but we talked them through and stopped them becoming bug issues. Whilst away my wife has started to read a book called 'project happy ever after' which i can only take as a positive and since our return at the weekend we have returned to sleeping in the same bed again which i am happy about. I am still working on me and my issues and it looks like my wife has started to work on 'us' too, a long way to go and i am going to make every effort not to expect too much too early or add any pressure into it.
One area that has started to cause a few issues is my mother.... When i told her we were going to try to get things back on track she said she didnt think she could treat my wife the same as before for a long time as she has seen how much hurt i have been through (a typical reaction no doubt for a mother and son). our first few visits to my parents home didnt go well and she didnt speak or look at my wife (not in a nasty way) which was noticed by my wife. I visited my parents and discussed with them (my dad had noticed too) and she was upset and said she didnt know how to move forwards, i told her how important it was for me and she promised to work on it, this did happen and i was very proud of her however the last visit before our holiday and our visit on our return seemed to revert back and has really upset my wife even to the point she thinks other members of my family are treating her differently too (something i havent noticed if i am honest), she has indicated that it could be a major stumbling block for us and wont be offering them any chances of looking after the kids or invites to family parties we have planned, even as far as going out/upstairs if they call round. I have tried to be diplomatic about this with my wife but i can see this turning into a major problem, it seems to be a case of start working on one thing and another thing comes to bite you on the #ss!!!
Any advice on dealing with this would be greatly appreciated as always.

Thanks always H