Willbwell, hugs to you. I know the feeling of having the WAS leave suddenly, and want to do everything as quick as possible. I want to be that person who allows them time to think about things, accept that we need to work together on things etc. I don't want to be the person who takes on all the emotion, but I am (based on what I see). I don't want to be the person who gave up, but it is hard. Because I am the one doing it all. So I get where you are coming from. I really do. It simply feels that your loved one has just put up a huge wall, doesn't care anymore, doesn't have any interest, no love, nothing. It is like we never existed, the marriage didn't exist and the love we had didn't exist. How do we deal with it? Don't know. All I know is, while the DB stuff is hard to do at times, it is still the only thing that is helping me. Nothing else does. Continue to rant on all you want here. We are all here for you, the family none of us ever had, but do now.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.