Mostly though, it's because of what I see she is going through. I have compassion for her because I know how badly she is hurting, struggling. She's not trying to hurt me, just doing what she feels she needs to do for herself. I really feel this is true for most MLC'ers.
FY, I think this is so true. I really do not think my W is trying to hurt me either, or hurt our children. I do think my W wills herself to not acknowledge how her actions hurt those closest to her. In my switch, I think my W avoids thinking about how her actions hurt our 3 girls. She is gone so much, and after the past year my girls have started to comment about it. Yet, my W will downplay it. I think she does realize that her actions hurt the children who she loves, yet if she acknowledges it, then that would require her doing something about it. And she doesn't want to do anything about it.
