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[Not Quitting]

While I'm still really p.o'd with H for lying about his plans, I decided not to take it personally. He's a pretty smart guy normally but obviously right now he's using the wrong head to do his thinking. He didn't even seem concerned that S13 was asking about who he was with or that he'd been upset because his dad didn't speak to me.

S13 doesn't seem to be dwelling on it. He didn't seem upset today either when H didn't show up for his weekly visit, although I'd already been told that he probably wouldn't be round this weekend. S13 and I went out to the movies instead and I let him pick which movie.

I'm definitely rethinking how I've been reacting around H. From here on in (as long as I actually stick to my guns now) he can do the chasing. I'm not at his beck and call for anything even if it does involve S13. He wants to see him, he can damn well get himself here - I'm not his personal taxi. We were supposed to have a meeting with our credit counsellor last week which I changed because of H's plans. When it's rescheduled I'm going with or without H - if he can't go when I schedule it he'll just have to get himself there.

Now that is definitely a 180 - I'm the only driver so I've always been there if he needed a drive somewhere. Not going to happen while he's not living here and/or while OW is still in his life.