Oh, I can. A large majority of them are this way. I still can't believe the letter came to your address. That is too much. He must have run home and got the mail to ensure you didn't see it.
You might want to think about making a list of the things you need to do. Sandy is right about the joint credit card. Call the Visa or Master Card company and advise them that you've misplaced the card you want to have the balance rolled over into a new account with a new number. They will do that for you and will cancel out the old account number. I did that and boy I'm glad I did. My xh went out the next week and tried to use both old joint account cards and was told that they had been reported lost. He was hopping mad. Now, what was funny is that he told his lawyer he didn't have a credit card, but when I did a credit report...there say a new Capital One Card with a $7,000 limit. I gave the report to my lawyer and told him I wasn't handing over any cards to him because I had cut up the old ones and showed him the pieces. He laughed and said he would have loved to have been behind him at the store when he tried to use them.
Sometimes you have to do things to protect yourself and your assets. They force you to do some drastic things, things that you would never have done in the past.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
