Had an abnormally normal day yesterday, as if nothing was wrong in our relationship. We did a day trip to Alcatraz because the son of a friend is doing an internship there and he was able to give us a behind the scenes tour. It was a beautiful sunny day in San Francisco (rare this time of year). We did the tour, the whole family enjoyed it. I took pictures and we posed as a family too. I do notice that when my W takes pictures with her phone, I'm never in them....
On the ferry ride back to SF, I got beers and pretzels as well as ices for the girls. I got it because a coworker of my W's mentioned this is "what you do" on the boat to Alcatraz. My W made a point of thanking me for getting the food and had the girls do it too.
We had lunch at an Italian place in North Beach and then gelato.
Afterwards, we went to where a new friend of my W is living. This is a 28 year-old, single women that she met in the gym back by where we live. The women is trying to get into medical school here. My W brought her a gift of pillows. My W is trying very hard to cultivate this friendship. I'm not sure why. This is the first time I met her, she seems like a nice enough person.
We visited the friend for about 45 minutes and then left to go home. I drove most of the way, and then since I was obviously tired my W offered to switch when we got gas. She drove the last 30 minutes, but I couldn't relax because for some reason she was driving very aggressively in terms of speed and too close to the car in front.
It sounds like it was a lovely day SA.....I'm very glad you, and the girls, had a such nice day!
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
WR, thanks. I realize I'm fortunate in that my W can treat me nice and we have many normal days. I started by saying it was "abnormally normal" because it is not even 2 weeks after I kicked her out and then let her back home again. How can we have a normal family day?
Anyway, I tell myself that I am fortunate. I just need patience.
Today, we spent most of the day apart from 11am til 5pm doing separate things.
BTW, I thought my W was done with spending, and today she bought a jacket at Lucky's for $350. Hopefully the retail therapy doesn't start again.
Kids started school today. I took all of them in. I felt a little bad because my W had intended to take the day off to go with them, and I talked her out of it saying that she should save vacation days. Anyway, the W will pick them up, and they'll probably be all chattering when she does.
I've always been partial to retail therapy my whole life
It's great you're so involved with your kids!
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
I think my H would have a heart attack if I spent $350 on a jacket! lol. Then again, I am not employed at the moment and I live off his paycheck.
Glad to hear you are having some 'normal' days.. I know how important this is, and it certainly makes things more tolerable! My hope is that one day the normal days outweigh the crazy days. Is that too much to ask for??! lol.
Have a good day, -cp
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
Yesterday, I invited a coworker who is, so it seems, separated from his W and family. They moved about 12 hours driving distance away and he is still here. He hasn't divulged all of their problems to me, but my W remarked, "yes, they're separated." I guess that much is obvious, although I didn't think of it in those terms.
We had a good night. He is a good guy and nice company. The 3 of us ate, drank, and conversed. My 3 girls played outside and then ate as well.
Today, I worked only a half day and came home. The girls started school, and the PTO had a pool party today. I took my 3 girls alone. The W was at work and didn't come. I had a good time. Socialized with a bunch of different people while there. Came home and the W was home and said she just got home.
She boiled water and fed us spaghetti. She left to go to the gym before we were done.
Spent Saturday at home, did some gardening and cleaning up. The girls had some friends over and played until 3pm. The W left to do some chores, returned, and left again to go flying.
On Sunday, went to a local swimming hole with some friends. You had to walk down a steep slope, cross the river, and then you arrived at the swimming hole. The water was cold, but we went in. On the far side was a sheer cliff wall, and my W climbed about 15 up to a ledge. She jumped in.
Some friends from about 90 minutes away came to visit for dinner. So after the swimming hole, we went home and prepared for dinner. Had a nice dinner and then went into town to walk around.
