How can you mend a broken heart?

[nero]

hey hi linda-

idk what the whole snaggle is- hopefully it passes by soon.


DO NOT GO DARK DEARIE- I personally look forward to hearing from you regularly- and hate to think of you doing the ole "lassie in the mud" thing. you know- when ole lassie had to hide in the mud because he was bitten by a snake or something)

we all plug along- being who we are on this board- sometimes it may come out sounding wrong - i bank on teh readership to be taking into consideration who we all are and why we're here and all of us cut the rest of us a break.

i had a little "proverb" or something- which i can't totally remember or find - but liked alot and it more or le3ss said about a true friend-

(when we speak)"a faithful hand will brush away the chaf and keep the worthy words & sentiments " or some such- in other words, they will kindly overlook the mis-statements or things that come out wrong- and listen with their heart - and hear our intent.

i'm hopin it's true in life and her- so relax and don't go far away..... (

oh yeah- my two cents on teh solitude thing- it's over ratred. personally- i do waaaay better when i'm having a fit about h and ow and all that crappola - to keep as busy and distracted and "public" as humanly possible. themore i'm not alone- th less i brood.

just me-

i'd hate like mad to dish out any hurt to anyone. it's something i do not admire about my h- his ability to "not see" what he does to me and others. same goes for ole momzilla.

okay- i'm outta here. gotta pack and quite stalling about it.

xxoo

[RosaLinda]

Hi Wonka. Thanks, I would like that!  Got pina coladas?

I developed double vision in my left eye a couple of hours ago. Like any nurse I decided it would go away but it hasn't. My H insisted on taking me to the ER, which I appreciate. He won't come in and is waiting in the car, but at least he's here. I feel like he cares about me :) 

I downloaded a book someone suggested to the kindle on my phone to read in the ER. "This is not the story you think it is" by Laura Munson, about surviving her H's MLC. She seems to be a natural born DBer. It's really good so far, lots of food for thought! Anyone read it?

Nero - thanks to you too! Okay I'm bite ( not like Lassie) and tell you what I really think.  I think H told me he'll be in the car so he can talk to the Tramp on his cell. AND I bet she is hoping I'll crump out! But at least he brought me and is waiting for me.

[job]

RL,
I'm glad to see you have opted to return to post. I hope that your eye situation isn't serious.

[BrightFuture]

Hi RL, I’m glad you are back. I hope there is nothing serious with your eye. And it nice that your H brought you in to ER. It means he is not a complete monster and cares for you.

I’ve looked up the book and it seems interesting. Did you download it for free?

[MileHigh]

Hi, Linda. Hope you're doing well. I always appreciate the kindness and candor in your posts. Hang in there.

[Cadet]

I have not read Laura Munsons book but from the reviews that I have read her husbands MLC was very short!

Extremely short.

But yes she played the hand she was dealt very well!

[mizjjd]

RL,

I guess we took a break at the same time?

Sometimes its necessary isn't it? For me I find too much of my own posting becomes wallowing a bit. I just need to hit "pause" and not-think-about-it-so-much.

Very sorry you are having troubles with your eye. I hope things turn around very soon for you.

I just downloaded L. Munson's book. It sounds like it offers good news and promise. Things much needed just now.

Take care

[makingmagic]

HI Linda... Hope you are ok! Sorry to hear about your eye issues.

I too need to break from here from time to time. I tend to obsess about my sitch and then everyone elses too. Then I get overwhelmed. Its a large load to carry.

Im glad that your H "offered" to take you... Its a caring guesture.

Take care, Magic

[RosaLinda]

Thanks all of you for your support, Snodderly, Bright, DMR, Cadet, Mz. J, Magic. I am home, with my vision exactly the same after a bunch of tests. The ER doctor first thought the double vision is due to a partially detached retina. She said if that's what it is, it can cause blindness if it completely detaches, but can easily be repaired by an opthalmologist with a laser. But first she wanted to do a CT scan and MRI to make sure I don't have a brain tumor. The test results were good, and i was seen by a neurologist, who said I don't have double vision because the two images I see are vertical, one above the other, and "real" double vision images are side by side. What do I know, i see two! He said it is an eye problem not brain problem, most probably a detached retina or possibly glaucoma. That's what the ER doctor thought in the first place!! By this time it was after 8 pm and the opthalmologist wouldn't come so I'll see him tomorrow at his office. 

But I am home and fine! Thanks. Trees look the strangest, like they are crammed full of twice as many leaves! Driving in the car is nauseating!

I like the Munson book so far; her writing is entertaining and educational. She seems to have figured out all the things we are struggling with over night, the first night her H left after BD, like giving the MLCer space, the rewriting marital history, loving enough to let him go with love, and that her H really loved her even though he said he does not, it is himself he hates. 

Cadet I haven't gotten really far yet as it's hard for me to read. How long WAS his MLC? Do you like it so far J? Bright it was not free, a bit over $10 I think. 

[sweetbabyred]

Rosa,

I hope your vision gets better soon.

I read that book when it first came out. What can I say? I'm a bookworm and I'll read anything I can get my hands on about communication and relationships.

From what I remember, their whole sitch took just one summer to get through. I'm not sure if he actually moved out and he didn't get an OW.

I liked her writing style, but I just kept thinking that she had no idea how bad it could really get. Everyone of us on here has had a much worse sitch.

It was a good read, but I got jealous of her for getting her M back after just a few months!