She's putting you in a situation where you cannot feel confident and self assured because you really don't know what she's going to do or what she's up to. She is emotionally separated from you judging by her behavior and seems to be investing nothing in your marriage. Since you don't have kids, another physical separation may be in order.
You can't entice her back by being nice, and it will be hard to give her the space she needs with how you're feeling and being treated. You're In a prolonged one down position and that will fail to draw her attention to you.
I recommend living separately and creating some boundaries to protect yourself. I would set a high bar of what you need to see from her before considering reconciliation. She's checked out -- the shortest path back together is to check out also
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
