Think about how far you have come since your first post in Newcomers.
Just take it slow. You have heard the P word a million time (patience).
Like I said, I really can't give you advice because I'm not there. At this point I'm so detached that I'm beginning to believe we will never make it to Piecing. I haven't given up, maybe I'm just becoming pragmatic about the whole issue.
If you want my advice, for what it is worth, I would not be the one to bring it up. If she does, then that is okay. Do not overpursue the topic and try to analyize every word, detail, facial expression, etc. Let her lead that part of the conversation.
Have you read Mars/Venus? I suggest you do so. If I had 6 months ago, I wouldn't be here today.
Don't worry about the male friend. Obviously, she has a strong interest in you to have 3 dates a week.
My W told me when she first left that she was afraid i would always push for too much too fast and it scared her. I haven't pushed in about 1-1/2 months. She has probably given up by now on wanting it to work (she is having an affair).
Quote: One other thing I noticed, when she called yesterday to get insurance info for her meds, she asked how I was really doing. I think it came from a discussion in MC about how we tell if the other is depressed and needs our care. I told her I was good, but it hurt to have her leave the night before. She said she understood and I believe she agreed. I think it was a positive sign, but I don't want to unload everything I am feeling. I need to be cautious with this.
It was good she asked. You responded honestly, maybe a little too much. Don't push, let her come to you.
