Lost and lonely...

[Fighting4mylife]

(Moderator:I have been told to stick to one thread so have gone back to this original one)

Hi- This week went better (and worse). This week H made sure to phone me from work trip (unlike last week.) Made lots of comments about not only us moving house but transfering together in 2 years. (Which is good I guess because when he BD it was 2 years and thats it.) I felt good about the future comments. Then we were talking about my job and he said I should go for a promotion. I told him I didn't know if I wanted to do that and he said "well when I leave, I want to make sure you have retirement money and aren't living in a hovel." My heart sank. Then we had to take daughter to camp and drove in car for several hours together. We had good conversations, etc then when I drove he got on his phone and was very covert about what he was doing. Definitely was texting someone I think at some point. I didn't ask. (180 - giving him space) I said lets talk and he got really mean and said "we have nothing to talk about. We have nothing in common - I have told you this before. We have talked about all our standard topics" So then he pouted and put his phone down and then said ok talk. But it was all I could do not to show how upset the comment made me that I just clammed up. I just couldn't talk. But then when we got home he was nicer.

Also, his behavior is getting more and more like a rebellious teenager. He is making crude remarks, he is telling me that I am not the boss of him. He is drinking alot as well. Then last night when I thanked him from driving to take our daughter because she wanted him to go he said well he didn't really want to go but it doesn't matter what he wants. He is just an empty shell of a person. I honestly don't know this person.

Really need advice on how to handle his "longterm" divorce threats. Right now I just stay quiet and he says you can just stare into space but it is not changing things. HELP!