One of the best things I've learned from this whole learning experience is, Don't take things personally. It's required some time for me to really take it in but it's so true that what people do and say is usually about them and very rarely about me. They are reacting out of their own unmet needs, usually from a time long ago. I know I've done things that were hurtful to people and I wasn't doing it to hurt them, it was all about my own hurt.
He will mess up relationships, including those with his kids until he takes responsibility for his life. You can't change that. It's heart wrenching that they hurt because of it but again, you can't change that.
You can be their support and their soft place to land.
Set some boundaries that are all about you and the kids,enjoy your life with them.
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Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
