She doesn't know that I know about this other guy. Approaching her will make things worse I think because she will thinking that I am spying and not trusting her, etc.

Man, I am getting to clingly and needy. This morning we will talking (we sleep in separate beds but the beds are in the same room) and she made the comment how she like having the bed all to herself. I responded that sleeping on separate beds was anti-marriage. She got upset, told me she has a lot on her plate already and doesn't need to her this crap. She walked outside to water the grass.

Ever since she told me that she doesn't want a divorce I indirectly took that as having the green light to pursue, etc. But I know I can't - she isn't there. I need to act as if I we never had that talk and that I don't know about this other guy. I definitely need to re-read Sandi's rules - I am slipping these last two days. Ahhh.....More scream...