Fantasy meets Reality

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While the cat's was away, the mouse continues to play.....

It's been an Interesting week. A bit confusing if I let myself think about it so I've tried my best to just let it all go. I haven't been posting any updates because I didn't think that anything that was noteworthy. Until Thursday and Friday's conversations.

It started with the BBQ on Sunday as I mentioned a few pages back. Then Monday the invitation to his house for dinner. Tuesday he worked very late but texted a few times and called when he left work saying he was on his way. What I didn't expect is that he'd come in but he said he had to send some work related emails. He spend nearly an hour here talking. He rehashed the Sunday BBQ with our daughter and again seemed to be very relaxed and casual about everything. It was nearly 10pm by the time he left.

Wednesday I received several calls and texts again one of which h asked me to go out to dinner. I declined but told him that maybe we could do that later in the week. He stopped in on his way home again in the early afternoon but I rushed him out telling him that I had somewhere to go. Later, around 8pm he calls and asks me what I'm doing. He asked me to come over. Apparently he had purchased one of those patio heaters and wanted company???? He had candles burning, champagne (as if we were celebrating something) the heater going and even a little throw blanket sitting on my chair in case I got cold. Again he was calm and relaxed and it seemed like old times. It was all very confusing to me. I only stayed for about an hour but did have a nice time talking about whatever he wanted to talk about. Nothing was said about us or the ow, just casual chat. I kept getting the feeling that he was trying to convince me to like the new house. He kept comparing the two houses and their good and bad points.

Thursday, I was running errands when h called. I waited until I had finished and called him back. We talked for about 1/2 an hour. Most of it was a conv. about finances and our future. He thanked me for setting up all of the financial investments that I set up so long ago for us and how doing that has worked to secure our future. He told me how much money he's saved and invested in his 401K since returning to work, assuming that I haven't been looking at our finances. Silly man!!! It was almost as if the ow didn't exist. He talked about how he was going to attempt to work until he was old enough to earn the maximum benefit with SS and had checked out different ways to take it when we were ready so that we'd both get the maximum possible. Then he said that he wasn't sure that he really could make it that long. He was talking in the same way that he did before the nightmare started. I am leery of believing a word of that conversation but it was interesting. It could also just be lip service to throw me off from whatever he's planning to do next. He asked me to meet him for dinner then followed that with but you probably have a hot date tonight. I laughed and told him that I was having dinner in the city so I wasn't sure when I'd be back. He let it go without asking with who.

Friday he called at 9am asking me if I would meet him for breakfast. I declined but told him to check with me later for lunch. He did and we had lunch, did a few errands, shopping and then picked up our daughter from work. The only mention of the ow was when he said that she was supposed to be away for just 3 or 4 days. That she keep delaying her return due to "business" but was looking forward to coming back. I think it's been a week and a half now since she left. In the late afternoon he called and asked me if he could come over and if I could make Martini's for us. It's what he always liked to drink on Friday afternoons. I said sure come on by but then looked for the Vodka and realized that he had taken it. I texted him and told him to bring the Vodka if he wanted a Martini otherwise I had other things that we could have. He showed up without the Vodka confused as to why I didn't have any. HA! Cause you took it bud!!!! No, I didn't say it out loud. It was a pretty good sized bottle of G.G so he must be drinking a lot! More casual talk about work but there wasn't much else to talk about other than some neighborhood gossip. It's hard to carry on a conversation with an mlcer when you don't think you have a future with them. The usual conversations about vacation planning, upcoming long weekends etc just can't happen!

At times during the conversations he had a softer tone in his voice. Can't explain it but it's very different than his usual tone.

Not expecting anything from him as I think it's too soon for any real progress. He is testing waters or maybe this is how they are when they take a peek into the light of day. Or is this the "nice" before the next BD? Time will tell. It's too late for popcorn but I'm going to make a big batch tomorrow and wait for the parade.

Almost forgot, kml.....I planted the earring!!!! I just hope he doesn't find it before she comes back. He might even figure it out. I found one in my jewelry box that my daughter lost the match to years ago so I don't think he'll recognize it.