I spoke to my dad today and he also said to take my decision making slow. Nothing out of emotion or hurt. I know I am still very upset by H not coming to D6 birthday and the guilt that S8 feels because he is happy H IS coming to his bday next week. If I were left to my old own devices I would have told H to f off forever. Slow and steady is what I need to be.
I really do believe that the best I can do for my M, H and my kids is to continue moving forward while placing these new boundaries on H when he is in town. I will see how it works out for us all. I have given H reassurance about my belief in him (and I do believe in him) yet realise that it is not my time to be with him.
Your Dad sounds awesome... lean on him a little. I sure wish I had parents to really be able to talk to.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
