An onion, dance lessons and a Harley III

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Thanks Ruby and MileHigh I actually overslept for work Friday lol. I was tired... I don't have a problem going to sleep, I just wake up a million times through out the night. My mind at times is going at a pretty fast clip lol. MileHigh I understand when those sleep patterns get out of whack.

I just received a letter from my W's lawyer that the judge is going to sign the papers on the 20th and I can show up if I would like. Uh, ya think I'll skip that one... I still don't know how/what I should do. Should I wait or date? Should I reach out or not (she has made it obvious that she does not want any contact with me and honestly at this time I need seperation to allow my heart to heal)? Part of me wants to be in a relationship and part of me wants to wait and become whole again. At times I feel stuck, in a holding pattern. Is dating the answer, uugghh at times this is very frustrating.

I went to a seminar on communication. It was very interesting and I got a lot out of it. The speaker was talking about how to keep the communication especially difficult topics in the sweet spot, not in the minimize or aggressive zone. One thing I do is to minimize (shut down) and he was talking about specific steps to keep dialog open and the exact steps in giving me a voice or a way to communicate. I shut down when people get aggresive in communication because I do not know how to keep the dialog going in a healthy productive way. This speaker had some specific ways for me to keep the dialog in a safe place or the sweet spot. I'll post more about this guy and his method later.