The point about not updating her H on what the kids are doing is that she stopped TAKING THE INITIATIVE and talking to him. If your son's exam results were important to note, then telling your H was the right thing to do. HOWEVER, calling your H to tell him what your kids did that day, every day is not the right thing.
He has to initiate.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.