Interesting times

[beatrice]

RosaLinde thanks, yes, they are pathetic with their girl friend/Boy friend mentality.

I got hit on yesterday in the local market - quite an attractive man, and you know, I thought 'I cannot be bothered with this'! So I smiled charmingly (I hope) and moved on.

[AJM]

Am I supposed to be delighted that he finds life without me so wonderful? I have decided to ignore this email

Really? Is he trying to convince you or ?
His life isn't what he thought it would be, judging from that bit of email. Not in the least. So he's putting lipstick on a pig and trying to make it sound great. His issue though he does seem to want attention from you. They are funny like that.

So, why did you just smile and walk away from the attractive man? What is it you can't be bothered with exactly? Why are you depriving the local men of your awesomeness?

AJ

[uRworthy]

Yea, what AJ said.

[beatrice]

OK, I have a really fantastic family and circle of friends, and I cannot imagine trying to integrate someone into this wonderful network. I have worked soooo hard to rebuild my life, and I feel that I do not want to jeopardize what I now have. Does this sound insufferably smug, or close minded?

I also feel that if I am 'meant' to have a new relationsihp it will happen.

But I love you guys for asking.

[job]

Bea,
I understand perfectly what you are saying about trying to integrate someone into your wonderful network of friends and family. You have worked extremely hard to rebuild your life and no, you do not sound smug or close minded. You sound like a woman who knows what she has and doesn't want to start over again and again.

God has a special plan for you, Bea. When the time is right, that special someone will walk into your life when you least expect it.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

[uRworthy]

Bea, you could never be smug or close minded. I understand perfectly what you are saying.

And I agree, what is meant to be, will be.

In the meantime, your network of family and friends are blessed to have you in it.

Love you, dear friend. You are one amazing woman.

[WenikiTiki]

Hi Bea!

A few pages back you said:
" You are still in the world of hurt and pain stage - which is horrible, and thank goodness I have finally got out of that hole."
It was a good time for me to read that, I keep wondering when I get done with that world.....
Keep on doing what you are doing.
Aloha,
Wendy

[beatrice]

Wenikitiki So good to hear from you - remember 'this too will pass'

Hugs

[AJM]

B, I totally get that. FWIW, I had a friend who was in the same boat. She felt the same way. Didn't give guys a chance to even talk to them (outside of business). That went on for a very long time. Then she met a guy that she is head over heals for. I remember telling her that if she meets the right guy, integrating or anything like that is not going to be a problem. She likes to punch me in the shoulder when I remind her of that

Thanks for sharing. And Wen/B/?, I'm sorry to hear it still hurts from time to time But I also feel it sometimes as well. It's been a long long time, and yet I still sometimes do. I suspect many of us do. It's cause we're not crazy enough to act like it never happened

Peace,
AJ

[Portia]

Hey Bea,

I know how you feel when you get an e-mail which suggests that the MLCer's life is going along great. My xSO, after four months of nothing, texted me to tell me there were "lots and lots of change, all good" (you probably read that on my thread) and even if AJ's interpretation is correct, I cannot tell you how much it hurt me to hear that. It took all of my strength not to send a nasty text back: So, all of your changes are good, even the one where you haven't talked to me in over four months?

Bea, I also understand being gun-shy of anything that might upset the apple cart. But you know what, a relationship, even one that "just happens", has to start somewhere - and that somewhere can be a smile at the grocery store

Take care!