I love the forums here and read people's stories for hope and ideas. A few people have mentioned that they've read the books recommended here--I've read Divorce Remedy twice and gave it to my husband to read and asked, as a last favor, that he read the first two chapters, which is up to about 80 pages, and he said he would.
I just feel pretty helpless/hopeless about the whole thing. OK, I know, but I went to a psychic yesterday and she said that she saw a rip between us and that I was meant to have children and he wasn't. For the record, I don't usually do this. I just, well, this has been so damned painful, I've been asking for help in every way possible. I'm trying to GAL, and I can do the LT but I don't know if that will actually do anything. I don't know all of his reasons for ending the R, and he says ''I tried" but if I didn't get a chance to try, is that trying? We moved in together almost immediately, and had been living together for four years, married for three in July. No kids. A lot of the marriages discussed here are longer, and same with the book. Is there hope for shorter marriages?
I finally had to contact a lawyer, because he keeps threatening to do the papers himself, and wants to decide on spousal support, etc. I'm 33 and I've never done this before, and with him shouting into the phone "I don't love you!" -- it's not true, he does care about me very much, he's just not in love with me -- I can't do this fairly for myself. He was so adamant that we not use lawyers, to save on expense, and I really wanted to please him. I didn't want to do something that he's so extremely against, because that's not exactly helping the situation. But there are things like stocks involved, and I don't even know what the papers look like, etc. I just want a pair of professional eyes to help me.
So anyways, that's my story. I think that he actually cares very much. But he refuses to respond to my texts, or my emails. Not entirely true, partially true. He finally, on Thursday, responded kindly.
