The risk is that I don't give her enough time and space to work on her own issues, accept her back too soon, and end up in the same place down the road. We quickly fall back into each other and then it's easy to overlook some of the problems.
How to mitigate? Now that really is the question isn't it? I guess first, I have to keep some distance between us for a while. I'm still am a long way from trusting her and I think that we have to start rebuilding that with some space. She says she wants to work on it, but I don't really get the "feeling" that she's ready to dig in and do the work, if that makes any sense. Maybe it's because I understand how much work it is and I don't think she does....I dunno.
