Hardened Heart Continues

[TryingToDo180]

I think she is going through a fog at the moment and it may take her a while before the fog clears. Glad your focussing on yourself and venting your frustrations on here Another tip is to journal your thoughts. This helps release the built up emotions by writing them down on paper. Look for positive statements on the internet and print them out to stick up in your house This also helps keeping you positive Have a good day, hope you find something to do

[Cadet]

I just had an idea that I've just told someone else about. Have you thought about doing a part time course at your local college? See if you can get a brochure or look it up on the internet and see if you can find something that you've always wanted to do such as learning French, cooking, art, etc. You can meet new friends as well on the courses

There are also FREE courses that you can take on the internet.

Try looking up coursea that will give you the info on how to sign up.

[TryingToDo180]

I agree Cadet Over here we have FREE courses in English, Maths and Computers. It's quiet on the boards today, where is everyone? GALing I hope, lol.

[TryingToDo180]

The other thing why I suggested college courses is that it's another way for 2old to go out and meet people

[2old]

So I had a small back slide yesterday. On Friday night my step daughter called me and talked and talked and talked. Anyways, of course the convo turned to her mother and in short my WAW although setup by her son is finding that even the the grass is slightly greener it still needs watering and care. One thing D brought up is how her mother just doesn't seem to make alot of sense in things she says. For D to say this shows alot. D also says her mother isn't saying too much about her and I. Although there is some talk. D mentioned the fact her momther said to her how who knows what the future holds and something about if you can live without someone for a year you can live without them for the rest of your life. D and I both dont understand where or why she got that. Thats a strange statement isnt it? So my backslide was to test the waters wit a short email wishing her good morning and to have a nice day. Of course I know it was wrong to do when I hit the send button but I didnt anyways. Of course she didnt respond. Also D called back yesterday to say more including how mom (my WAW) has possibly found a church to attend and how she feels mom would be solid in honoring her marriage vows..hmmm...So anyways my strange journey continues.

[Cadet]

You may need to start a new thread again, you are well over 100 posts.

So was sending the e-mail worth it?

[TryingToDo180]

Don't forget to stick a link from here to your new thread 2old. remember what we say on here believe none of what she says and half of what she does (or is that the other way around?).
Try to change the topic when your D starts talking about your W. It has come 3rd hand so she might not tell you the exact words that your W said, so this could be misinterpreted. Don't forget your W doesn't know what she wants at the moment and it will take her months before she does decide.
My MIL said to me that my H is happier now than he's ever been for a long time. I believed her at first, but now I think that my H is kidding himself. He is still in a fog and will be for sometime.
Your W is still in a fog and she doesn't know what she wants. Whatever information you get from her, take it with a pinch of salt. Tell your D that you don't want to talk about W at the mo as it still upsets you to hear things like that.
I've been there before a few times where my H has said things to other people and they've repeated it back to me. I'm learning to ignore what they say as I don't believe none of it.
Once you start to get a life of your own and work on you then it won't matter what your W does or says. I have notr rung my H up or sent him an email for over 2 weeks now (except when he was expecting one). I've still get some of his mail here. I told him about one letter but I haven't mentioned the other letter to him yet. Me and my son are my first priorities in my life now and I've not got room in my life for H as well. If he decides to come back home then the door will always be open, but for now I'm GAL without him in it.

[2old]

Hi cadet, I'm not sure how to start a new thread...And no the email wasn't worth it. I had been initiating no emails for a month and in one stupid weak moment blew it. And yes it is soooo obvious W is in a fog. For her own daughter to say how senseless she sounds sometimes, is sad. And what with this if you can live without someone for a year you can live without them forever. Strange statement but who knows she read or heard that somewhere. As D said in same statement says who knows what the future will bring. She really is confused bigtime.

[2old]

Hi trying, Yes she is in a fog quite clearly. Goood for you to not contact H for the 2 weeks. I was soooo good with the month long no initiating that I'm bummed I blew it with sending her yesterday. So 2 x 4 is deserved.

[TryingToDo180]

I think you've done enough damage with your own 2x4 that I don't need to hit you with mine lol. Don't worry about it too much, just get back on the NC wagon
You are trying to over analyae again what your W is thinking. I'm going to hit you with a 2x4 for that. No-one knows what's going on in your w's head apart from your w. No-one on here can help you with what your w is thinking either, you need to concentrate on you.
Have you got any more goals or GALs set? I've just found out about a zumba class that's starting soon so I'm going to pop down and have a look at that. Have you thought about any classes that you can take or college courses? What about your local library or community centre, do they run anything?