You are doing fantastic, keep it up. Take the night with your H, the text and the lunch and enjoy them but do not let it trip you up. He will go back and forth between what he wants because he really doesn't know. I know it isn't fair to you but it's true. Like a couple of people said, when I was cheating I wished that my H would cheat so he couldn't be mad at me for doing it.
In regards to my post a week or so ago about detaching, where you said you were afraid it would mess things up, it won't. And you are actually doing a great job at it for someone so new to this. It doesn't mean you don't love them, it just means you refuse to let their actions get to you and dictate your behavior. You are doing this each time you let him be and don't take on his bad mood, by not mentioning OW,etc..
Keep up the great DBing!
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
