just been reading around- throwing in my two cents. yeah- what the heck IS IT ANYWAY WITH ALLLLLLLL the compliments and smarmie slathering on the "good news" with other people and we just "exist" apparently-
my h would choke if he ever had to pour the bs on my head that he saves for others!!!! s ayign this out loud tho- this is soemting i'm experiencing big ti me with my old mother too.
i swear- this NEUROSIS thing- sometimes i opine that she views me as someone she's forced to ask for help- hates it- so HAS TO dumpon me? soemthing like that - can't even formulate a bigger/better theory-
BUT SOMETHING LIKE THEY hate the person they need most and rely on most?
i''m not even sure it applies to my h and then my m for same3 reasons- i'm just sayin it's the same sort of behavior.
my very very reclusive and "thinks everyone in universe is a jerk" h - is pouring it on his step-relatives he was always sooooo disdainful of- all of a sudden they're alll worthy of all sorts of perks and compliments- it's soooo wierd to watch.
he's either changed into some real glommie- superficial - "hey whatta swell guy am I" kinda pewrson- or it is somehow like my mother - who can spread it on with a knife to anyone that comes around - BUT treats me like doormat.
i'm being accurate too- not even exaggerating. hering my mother telling someone they're "an angel" and "saving her" - this is merely a nurse or home health worker-
while i'm always "crabby " and "what's my problem" - even when i'm in a good mood and i know for a fact i'm not icky-
IT'S SOME WEIRED thing hooked up with them finding themselves in a bad place in life - I THINK.
JUST sayin -
don't even pretend to know how all this intertwangled psychosis junk works...
