Patience, detachment and potatoes

[ForeverYoung]

rky! I've been wondering how you've been doing. I didn't realize you jumped (back?) to newcomers.

Goals...

I didn't see "successfully quit smoking". I hope it's only because you forgot!

•Dating? Well I have had 2 offers but turned them down. When is it okay to do this?

After you're D. Hay, you asked!

One thing I am interested in knowing is how do you truly move on. I feel like I am generally happy with life but there is still this cloud ever present which is a potential looming D and accepting that it is over for good. Until I accept this, how can I move on...and how do you come to terms with this?

I'm convinced this just takes time, and everyone is different. Just keep focusing on YOUR life/happiness, and you'll get there.

R talk. This has never come up although I perhaps have had an odd opportunity when she tells me she misses me. Presumably I cannot bring this up myself until I am truly ready to accept the possible consequences (i.e. D) and move on?

Right. Let her bring it up unless you are ok with being done. (or adding more time for her to come around)

I never initiate R talks, but my W has twice in the last 2 months. Only when she asks do I tell her how I feel. (that I won't wait around forever) It least for us, it seems we both can "sense" were the other one is regarding the R. So, when I genuinely start feeling that I can move on with out her, it seems to draw her closer!

She's still not making any moves to leave, so I'd say it's working for us.

Asking W out. Pressure/pursuit I know but providing I take any rejection well is it acceptable to just ask her out....not a date as such, but more just hanging out...meal, go out for coffee etc..

My suggestion: Pick an activity that you are planing to do on your own. Tell W you are doing it and ask her if she'd like to join you. If she says no, that's ok, you go anyway. Next time you see her you can tell her about it if you want.

See the difference? It's not a "date" if you were going to do it before asking her. Also, it doesn't put her on the spot. (you were going either way) It also will lessen any feelings of rejection.

Bust On my friend!