He said it drove him crazy to see how happy I seemed on FB...lol...thanks DB
So, part of my growth is not to play these games anymore, hopefully, if I backslide, at least it will be a learning experience
I've learned that my FB page drove the OW crazy... LOL! Wonder why she cared? Do you think it's a game to use FB? I read on another thread... wish I remembered where, but the person in the sitch said their DB coach told them to be MORE active on FB during physical separation. I guess it's an opportunity to use it as an "As If" tool? I don't know? I deactivated mine when W moved out just because I needed some quiet. Thinking about going back on. I miss my friends!
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
I think FB can be a double edged weapon. It was mt experience the my W was using FB as tool to hurt me. I had blocked her off my newsfeed and stopped going to her page long before she blocked me off her page. I have noticed that her BF has not unfriended me which I found interesting.
I see a lot of DBers suffering painful moments from using FB and seeing what their WASs are doing and saying. I made the decision not to play that game. It just seemed so "high school" to me.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
Ruby "Now, MG massage girl, is much maligned and new woman is astute and mature and oh did I mention with twin five year olds?? That h says he won't be introduced to this year. Later on, I managed to get in "and if a new partner has kids you are responsible for them too. ". H said yes, no, yes, well not really.
Yes really! Didn't Massage Girl have little kids too, or was that someone else? How funny/sad that your H admits he posts fun stuff on FB just to annoy MG, Ruby, and that it drove him crazy to see how happy you seemed on FB! Sounds about right for 16 year olds!
MrCas "I see a lot of DBers suffering painful moments from using FB and seeing what their WASs are doing and saying. I made the decision not to play that game. It just seemed so "high school" to me. "
Well, this IS MLC High after all wise decision to avoid exposing yourself to that pain Mr. Cas!
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
Wise? No, it was the fear of reacting to it and being chased down the street with people wielding 2x4s and tire tools... LOL!
and that was "BF" as in best friend... not boy friend.
I have that Ramones song buzzing through my head...
Well, ya know she rewrote her history M-L-C... M-L-C high school Ya know that's not where I wanna be M-L-C... M-L-C high school I know I'm gonna have to take a lick I refuse to act like a big ol' dick M-L-C... M-L-C... M-L-C high school
Well, I don't believe what she do or say M-L-C... M-L-C high school 'Cuz she just tries to get it her way M-L-C... M-L-C high school Ignore the bait on that there hook Gonna keep my ass off of her FaceBook... M-L-C... M-L-C... M-L-C high school
Run run M-L-C high school Run run M-L-C high school Run run M-L-C high school Run run oh baby
Okay... having a laugh at my W's expense.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
H got news today that a friend of his died. Not a close one, but still, he doesn't do well with death. So I simply said that I knew how things like this rested with him and wished I could help. That I am solidly beside him. ...guess new interest will have to deal with it since he is at her cottage for the weekend :p
Made it two whole weeks without stalking H's facebook lol. Did it today and while I have a pang, didn't affect me too much, since I do know he is posting for "effect". Still,I had expected he was with new interest last night, before I left yesterday for home, he said "Just text me on your way in (to city) you know, just in case I am not here or not "ready" (code I guess for new interest is here/was here, don't bring son in without warning lol) As I was dropping S off.
So when he texted this morn and said "Are you on the way in?" I ignored all the texts (three of them...) and had son text when we got close.
Responded a few hours later all happy and nice
Also sent him two quotes from Pema yesterday, which he responded to this morning.
I think I may be getting tired of being around H and having him respond to new interest or text her etc, when I am there, but I do not get the same respect. I know this is an expectation and a silly one, we are separated, but hard to get my head around anyway. That is one of the reasons I have cut back seeing him during the week. I feel disrespected, even though I shouldn't, these are not my choices.
But then I do not have to put myself in the position to feel the disrespect, so I am not.
Social experiment number two...coming up. This one has a sense of humour (Thank you universe!) Still short though...WTH?? I think it is an innate genetic response that all tall guys are taken, better at seeing danger coming, faster, longer legs? I don't know lmao!!
Sorry about your H's friend Ruby. That's probably making him spin, never an easy thing to lose a friend but it's probably harder for a MLCer, because depression over facing their own mortality probably just makes the whole crisis worse.
One of these days H is going to appreciate how supportive you are, and continue to be. I'm always jealous of how much you two seem to talk about your feelings and desires.
How is your toe? Will you be able to run on Sunday?
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
Thanks Linda Some days it is not an easy place to be, but it helps me be better all around, since I don't hide from any feelings anymore.
Toe isn't bad!! I did almost 8 km Wednesday, a little achy but okay. Running Sunday come hell or high water. Have to leave at 4 am (since I declined H's offer of use of his apt, which would have brought me an hour closer).
This will be last half though. And, you all heard it here first. Am upping the ante and doing a full next May. Have told no one and will tell no one, except you all
