ok to all it has been some time since i came here. I have been doing very good. my mood and emotions have been good. up till today. Today i am just having a very down day. I am asking God toremove these bad feelings i am having. I just miss the hell out of W. I think this was sparked by a text i got from a friend. This freind sent me a text with a pic of wife at a wedding. to top it off a Gay wedding..... She looked very nice but her face looked like she was very mad unhappy.
I guess it just stured up alot of feelings i still have for her...
I did text her told her she looked good and told her i had a motorcycle accedent and my leg is not good. but im ok!!
she did reply and asked what happend and she told me that i just cant say i was in an accedent and im ok.
so i told her what hppened and she never replied. I sent a new text this morning saying im sorry i did not tell you about the accedent i just thought you would not have cared. she replied and said i should not hve said that and that she is a good person and she does care. Also hope you get well soon..
I did text her back one more time told her she was a good person and i know she does care. also said i love you and i know you dont like me saying that but i can not hold it in.
I just feel messed up today and I have been doing so good for some time.
I have this over whelming desire to text my W and tell her that I am always here for her. also have to be honest and say i want to say I miss making love to her. and some how want to ask her if she would be willing to make love. I know it is stupid but just my feeling today...
I know what your feeling. I have the same desires. To tell my wife I love her, that I will do anything for her, that she is everything to me and I will always be there for her. But you know what? Those are my emotions talking out of fear.
The thing is she knows that you love her and right now she might not be wanting to here that and certainly not over and over.
It doesn't feel "right" to not say it, but it "is" what you need not to do.
Try to think about what actions you can show her when you feel the need to tell her how you feel. What 180s can you do and "Show" her that you are changing, that will show her love.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Thanks jp787 It does help to know im not the only one that feels this way.
I just have to say i really was doing very good for awhile. I have givin it up to God and I do know he will restore the marraige at some point.
I have been doing 180's just guess we all have good times and bad times. this is a bad time for me and I am trying to work past it.
One big thing is that I have been doing is building a very good relaionship with her daughter. we are very close now and her daughter tells me her mom just seems like she does not care about her and is just out for herself at this point. I try to tell her im sorry. and try to have her look at it diffrent cause she is her mom. i am realy on good terms with her family and some friends. they all dont like what she did.
It is not that I would not have a relationship with her daughter because it seems like you had one with her before all of this. That in itself is not a bad thing.
However, I would tread lightly where daughter talks about her Mom. It is akin to walking through a minefield... tread lightly and carefully.
Don't fall into the trap of what of people think, either. It doesn't matter. These people have little to no vested interest in the outcome of what is happening. Just smile and nod.
Just a thought... While telling your W that you love her may not be good DB'ing... telling her that you know that she doesn't want to hear it is showing a lack of respect. You need to show respect to get some back.
I also feel like your text message about the motorcycle accident was made to invoke a response from her. That is not right. It seems as though you were trying to generate some sympathy out of it, too. Then you seemed disappointed when it didn't come.
BTW... I started reading the link you posted. Seems interesting and I plan on following up on that.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
looking back and being as honset as i can with myself i think you are correct. I think the texts was sent to try and get her to reply maybe fee bad for me. this was wrong but i can not change that now. i can say i have been doing very good but i guess i slid back a little now.
The link i found to be very good for me. It has helped me more than i could have thought it would. I do rely on my God for alot these days and go to him offen. I try to give him my problems and my W. I am not a bible thumper by no means but God has been moving in my life to the better and has help me get past all this. If you would like any of the books please tell me i have them in a pdf file. just send me the way i can send to you.
