Sorry to hijack the thread F, but if as Sandi says our spouses are going to continue staying nice because we are nice to them, is there a better way or answer to this. What I mean is, if we are being nice (too nice maybe) is that going against helping our sitch's? Is it making it too easy for the WAS? While I understand we should not be the opposite, if we are standing our ground with regards to money and other issues, what should we do differently? If it needs to be done? Should we not act like friends (if you even get that op)?
Read what I posted back to F. As long as you are not being a doormat and taking disrespect just to appease your W, then nothing is wrong with nice. I wasn't saying there was! I was simply trying to answer an issue F has had since he first came here.
The problem with you guys is that you are still looking for a way to fix it better and you pick upon a few words and let it throw you for a loop. Sometimes I feel like you strain at a nat and swallow a camel, but I guess it's the crises that make you that way.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
