I think I have drilled it into my head so many times over the last few weeks that anything physical doesn't mean R that I'm ready to a certain extent if it happens. In a way I have to look at it like a one stand in regards to how much it effects me and my actions after the fact.
I find it interesting. Years ago a man could tell a woman almost anything just to get in her bed. Even very young women would believe if the man had sex with her, he must love her. That's b/c they related sex as being love. But the man just saw it as sex.
Most of the posts I've read from other LBH's feel what you have expressed. I don't know if they always associated sex means love, or if it was after the BD. Maybe the sexes have changed places after all these years, IDK. But i think it's more about the LBH needing assurance his W still loves him. He thinks if she has sex with him, surely to goodness she has to love him!
I really hope the two of you will spend more alone time together before you have sex. But, it's pretty easy for me to say from where I'm sitting.
I have never had casual sex. It's has always meant something to me in the past. That probably doesn't help the situation I have found myself in over the last 12 months when we were intimate.
The LBH is looking for any sign to show him that his WAS still loves him so they grapple on to whatever is available. I think it's because a woman having sex with a man (imo) is the ultimate form of acceptance and therefore if this happens then she accepts him.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
