I think I have drilled it into my head so many times over the last few weeks that anything physical doesn't mean R that I'm ready to a certain extent if it happens. In a way I have to look at it like a one stand in regards to how much it effects me and my actions after the fact.
I find it interesting. Years ago a man could tell a woman almost anything just to get in her bed. Even very young women would believe if the man had sex with her, he must love her. That's b/c they related sex as being love. But the man just saw it as sex.
Most of the posts I've read from other LBH's feel what you have expressed. I don't know if they always associated sex means love, or if it was after the BD. Maybe the sexes have changed places after all these years, IDK. But i think it's more about the LBH needing assurance his W still loves him. He thinks if she has sex with him, surely to goodness she has to love him!
I really hope the two of you will spend more alone time together before you have sex. But, it's pretty easy for me to say from where I'm sitting.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
