NEW LIFE / NEW ME

[Fartiltre]

Hi Sandi

Thanks for looking by

If you pressured her to a point.....I think you would have seen an ugly side of her.

I have seen this a few times and every time has been when I stood my ground in financials, talk to children or things like that.
I do believe you are right since I have seen it! It is just below the surface. I haven’t provoked it but I have my boundaries and when she disagrees she spews. Still it is nothing like I read in other sitches in here.

As long as she is getting everything her way, why would she not. be nice? That is often why the WAW is relieved to hear her LBH say he wants to be her "friend".

She has gotten a lot her way but I have as well. Since she is the one leaving she has the best hand. I have been nice towards her until she crossed boundaries – shouldn’t I have been this way?

After the W moves out.......and if she gets financial ease through the H, her fantasy may continue on until she finds something better or starts looking for something to satisfy her loneliness. I am often amazed how women expect the man they left to continue to support them.

I haven’t done this – almost the opposite in fact! This was one of the issues that made her angry! I wont support her – she is on her own! I won’t make it hard on her either so I have followed the rules in my country but she did expect more and therefore she got disappointed and then angry!

Her true reason for leaving the M may, or may not, be revealed after she has moved out.

I do hope so! I am getting closer but still I am not certain so I just act like she got fed up!

You had stated one time that there might be an EA but you had not snooped to find out. Did you see any of the "signs" that could indicate she had OM in her thoughts?

If I have stated this I don’t believe it anymore! I have seen no signs at all – none, zip, zero!!!
I don’t believe there is or has been an EA


Now that you are here I want to thank you for your post when my sit started! I believe that it only took me four months to understand what you meant then . Then again you also told me that LBH don’t comprehend focus on you, detach and GAL – I see it now!

If you have any advice for me I will be grateful receiving it.

Thanks!

F