Husband Threatened to Leave, Don't know what to do

[TrentC]

You are right. It's getting hard to take. And if it continues I'm just gonna have to tell him that in still his wife through all this and I deserve to be treated like it. I am doing everything in my power to work on this marriage and save it and I need his help. I can't fix this all on my own.

You're absolutely right.

My question is nex time he is set to go out how do I healthily and in a way that isn't nagging, or motherly ask him to be home earlier. Or tell him it bothers me? How do i do that in a good safe way?

What exactly do you mean by "good safe way"? Because it sounds like you're looking for the magic words that won't make him angry, and you have to stop thinking like that.

How about this: if he's going out and tells you when he plans to be home, turn your phone off after that time and go to bed. If he comes home and asks you why you didn't answer his calls/texts, tell him that you weren't worried about him and went to bed.

See, he expects you to be hanging on his every word, waiting for that little bit of contact from him. Try that for a couple of nights and see what happens.