You have commented several times about not understanding why your W has continued to act so nicely toward you. I think one reason is b/c you are nice to her. If you pressured her to a point.....I think you would have seen an ugly side of her.

All WAW's want to get what they want with their H being nice and not causing them any problems or grief. That is one reason why many WAW's try to hurry up the split/move out or D, b/c they expect a fight from the H and they want to avoid that "unpleasantness" and proceed in their fantasy world.

As long as she is getting everything her way, why would she not. be nice? That is often why the WAW is relieved to hear her LBH say he wants to be her "friend".

After the W moves out.......and if she gets financial ease through the H, her fantasy may continue on until she finds something better or starts looking for something to satisfy her loneliness. I am often amazed how women expect the man they left to continue to support them.

Her true reason for leaving the M may, or may not, be revealed after she has moved out.

You had stated one time that there might be an EA but you had not snooped to find out. Did you see any of the "signs" that could indicate she had OM in her thoughts?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!