Saw this online and it seems appropriate to the discussion:

"Becoming a doormat in a relationship destroys love." ~ Dr. Edwin Locke, Ph.D. & Dr. Ellen Kenner, Ph.D.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."