Need more specifics on your goals or he won't do them. Your goals should be action oriented.
Quote: 1. My name on the house (he NEVER did that when we were married - very WRONG to do that) 2. Share expenses and create common goals (he had a hard time sharing money) What common goals? Save money for trips? Save money to repair house? How much money? Trips how often? Be very specific in your idea of what common goals ARE. 3. No more EA outside of work (work relationship only) So this means no hanging out with his buddies? How will you handle mens night out? Will you have a ladies night out? You two need individual time. Is this a consideration? 4. Move to another house if it calls for it 5. Spend time together, set aside quality time together (we failed to do that and drifted apart over the years) What night a week will this be? What will you do? Who will set it up? This needs to be laid out now so that you don't get off track and lose sight of together time. 6. Show me I am the best thing that happened to him Is he to bring you flowers? Tell you he loves you? What are you looking for here? 7. If he becomes unhappy. or I do, we discuss it and figure it out. Maybe a couples devotional geared toward building intimacy. Check some book at the store that y'all can do together say every Sunday over breakfast? If he's horribly unhappy, will counseling be an option?
Just some ideas. If you read the book "Getting Through to the Man you Love", this will help you realize that action oriented goals for a man are vitally important. And goals can't be vague where men are concerned cause then they'll just let them slide. They need to know their actions will PRODUCE some tangible result. And you'll need to see results to be happy...if goals are too vague how will you know you've reached your goal?
