Quote: Sorry MarcD - I don't agree she should have to stoop to his level to play his stupid games! I guess being a female I don't find the humor!
Missy
Missy I can respect that. But it's not really about stooping to his level. So much as the concept of water off a ducks back. It comes down to being one disinterested individual. Oh you got only three phone numbers??? That's it? Sound sincere, because if you take away their wind where does their sailboat go? For example.
M: You're always a raging bitch! F: You know you're right. I am very difficult to deal with at times. I really need to work on that.
What more is there to say? NOTHING. The power has shifted. The best part of that is that often they begin to defend YOU. This is something that I have applied to my own life. Nothing she says or does is wrong. Water off a ducks back. You take all the fun away.
Another example. The Bill and Monica sitch. Imagine if he had just said yes I had sex with her. What more would there be to say? It would be on the news that night, and in the papers the next day. But what else? NOTHING. He would have taken away ALL of the media's interest and all of the questions. Deny them that which they do to you to make you hurt and then there is nothing they can do to hurt you. You appear to be much more solid.
In my case, before my W stole my heart, I was rather the player. And no one could figure out how I could get so many women into bed, bringing me dinner etc... The key. I was one disinterested individual. We are ALWAYS interested in what we can't have.
As another example. Imagine a room with 4 refriderators. 3 of them are completly made of glass and you can see that there is plenty of food in them and you are VERY hungry.
Fridge #4 is made of steel and has a lock on it and you can't see anything inside of it. Guess which one you will be most fascinated with.
That was the point that I was making. The latter half of that was invalid advice and for that I apologize. I'm in one of those moods today.
