Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part IV)

[AnotherStander]

Good to hear you are finally starting to feel better. You have a lot on your plate and seem to be handling it well.

Thank you

Just out of curiosity, what has been your thoughts besides feeling that it was a nice gesture for your W to bring over her painkillers? You two have a long history together and part of me thinks that things may just work out for you yet.

I don't know what to think of her actions, I really don't. She's made no effort to reach out to me at all. But yet she still does things for me now and then, like the above, and like getting me some nice gifts on my bday a couple of months ago and taking me to dinner. Maybe she's trying to keep me on the hook as plan B, who knows.

Is OM still in the picture during the surgery and hospital time your W has been going through?

Yeah, after both surgeries when I went to visit her OM was there (and so were our kids). He made dinner for her. I really don't know what else he's been doing if anything. I still don't know what the nature of their R is, I assumed the worst but she's always insisted they're just friends and I've seen no evidence to the contrary except for her FB comments that I posted a while back, which could just point to a one-way EA on her part.

Some women are very independant as far as not wanting any help from their H, but i think you fixing her mower and mowing the lawn and offering her help if she needs anything will not go unnoticed even if she says she doesn't need anything from you like my XW does.

She does seem grateful for the help even though she hasn't really asked for any!

Hope your weekend goes well.

Thanks, you too!