Ultimately letting go and moving in may be the best advice.. But in responding to this particular request I am trying to decide what to do. I am inclined to let her borrow my car... But like she said it is a trade for a day. I drive a 2007 CRV that she can move her bike and furniture with. She drives a 2013 BMW 328i. I could take her car out for a night on the town with the boys... And let her know that is what I am doing and therefor minimize the doormat thing...

I am thinking of responding with ... So I would get your car for a full 24 hours?

Me-45
W-44
T-7 years
M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated)
Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)