Husband Threatened to Leave, Don't know what to do

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What exactly are your boundaries? Have you told him what they are?

My boundaries would be my married husband father of three little boys coming home at 4 am is unacceptable. But I feel like I can't be controlling right now. If I say that to him he will walk out that door so fast...

It's starting to look like he's pushing your buttons, getting you so scared he's going to leave that he can walk all over you.

He totally is....my heart and brain can't take it anymore. I cried yesterday for roughly 5 hours of my life. I'm so emotionally drained. This just isn't like him. And the scary part is one of the guys he went out with last night was a friend of his back through our last split and they grew apart and have now re-connected their friendship. Which is bad altogether I think. He has come along way since then being that he has a serious gf now and is building a house with her and talks about marrying her all the time...but still.

He's your husband and he is just as accountable to you as you are to him. Staying out all night, coming home angry AT YOU, and not telling you why? That's BS. You can't live like that.

I agree its not fair. After he text me at 2 he asked me if I was happy he text me. I though that was weird. But I just said yes of course. I appreciate it. It's almost like its a sneaky way of asking for permission to stay out till 4.

He woke up this morning ok. He was affectionate to me. Kissed me and hugged me. But I think I allude his minor grumpiness to hardly any sleep....again. He was soooooo happy towards me last night. Grabbing me and kissing me so hard and it was passionate and everything. Today's were just ok.

I am having a hard time not letting his moods affect me. I'm trying so hard to go with be flow...

He is also asking more than often how my planning for school is going. It's almos like he wants to make sure I have something going on so he isn't leaving a stay at home mom...