Hey you guys who are living separated...what do you do about kids bdays? Both my boys have bdays coming up.
W and I discussed it after S'ing and decided to keep celebrating the kids' bday's together as well as major holidays. We felt it would be best for the kids to keep doing that for a while. We don't do vacations/ trips together though.
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I would like to ask h if relationship with ow is what is driving this d.
Why? What does it matter?
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I want to ask him to please be man enough and own up to it if it is true.
Confrontation and pressure, two tactics you do not want to use with a WAS.
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Why should I care to know- the result will be the same d.
Exactly.
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He doesn't do the kids stuff. Sorry, need to vent a little...I do the shopping, the laundry, the cleaning, the HW, the scheduling of appointments, the chauffeuring, But, he says he wants to maintain a relationship with them? Says he'll help when he can. He wants to write a check. I said kids want his time and attention. He makes work his priority.
Sorry to hear this, he sounds like a real deadbeat. Just understand that YOU cannot fix him, and YOU cannot help him to maintain a healthy R with the kids. That is totally up to him. Work on the one thing you have control over- you.
