Unfortunately the apology is not unheard of - he started this whole business by alternating tirades with abject apologies. That was 2 years ago. Then he got more vile. Now he seems to be cycling back to how he was at the beginning.
Another new 2-3 hrs of spew on email and phone tonight. I had just secured an extension on my mortgage to cover all the credit card debt he left me with and the school fees. The bank had approved it and i had done all the paper work. The kids and i were so relieved ....
Then the bank discovered he'd taken out a caveat on my house. No more loan.
All the wind was knocked out of our sails - it was finally a way forward out of our dire financial circumstances.
I asked XH outright if he'd lift the caveat -even if he did so only for as long as it took to get the loan done. He said only if I agreed to his terms for settlement (ie he pays nothing and leaves us with all his debt).
So, no loan for us.
He's got every angle covered. He's still in complete control of our financial destiny.
