Wow, Nicole, congrats! I'm in a similar sitch to you, my divorce is almost final, but STBX and I are getting along so well now! Once we decided to go ahead and do it since our case management date was approaching quickly, we were able to just let go of all of the crap from our marriage and we decided that the D is a new beginning for us, not an ending or a death sentence. We still don't know if we'll reconcile or not, but things are positive.
I think that your ex is probably very scared and nervous right now, since you are now divorced and he might think that you won't even want to be with him again after all that has happened. He is probably taking things slowly, as some of the others said, just testing the waters to see how receptive you are to him. Maybe he is still on Match.com and talking to the OW because he has a wall up to protect himself? He might be afraid to let go of everything he's been doing in his life without you until he sees how you'll accept him now? I don't know, I'm just speculating, but I can see how he might feel this way. I can also see how you feel, too, like enough is enough, be with me or not, etc. Just stay positive and see what happens, maybe when he has more of a reassurance from you that you are interested again, he will just give up the other stuff on his own. Have a great Valentine's Day, and keep us posted!!
