And that, my friends, is why I run.... RT... Go back through my threads. H loved gf. Wanted life with gf. Wanted to move in with gf. Etc etc. now is xgf. Now has new interest. I have honestly stopped trying to understand anything.
I know it's hard cuz we love these people. But geez. They have A lot to do that really doesn't require us or our concern.
Spin, I read your reply and I kid you not… I got up from my desk in the office, I drove home, I kicked off my heels threw some shorts on and ATTACKED my yard! LOL!!!! By the time I was done with the mowing, the weeding, and bagging some trash I was covered in sweat and then rain started to pour down on me. I just stood there and laughed. I hopped in the shower and back at work. It was 45minutes of awesomeness! THX!!!!
Originally Posted By: kate's_place
H loved gf. Wanted life with gf. Wanted to move in with gf. Etc etc. now is xgf. Now has new interest. I have honestly stopped trying to understand anything.
Dear God PLEASE!!!! Let her find another interest! I can’t handle knowing this one as well as I do! I’ve still got that “ok, not me… but not her either” mentality. Heheheeee! I’ll process that later. I kinda like NOT liking her!
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
.............even better, when its all done you have something pat yourself on the back worthy.
Do you have a bike?
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
Does everybody have their popcorn? The dramatic movie it seems is now a mini-series.
SO...
The AP stayed out of the house for 2 days. Yesterday morning she came back and last night they went to "Counseling".
Now ask me how I know this? W and I were supposed to talk about how I was going to get Dog1 from her this weekend while she went out of town. She texted. I said... can you call? I have made plans this weekend. I needed to figure out how my weekend at the lake would work into getting Dog1 from her and next weekend she is taking Dog2 while I go out of town again where I can't take the dog. Logistics stuff... so speaking easier than texting.
I get a response. As a matter of fact I get 2 responses. I'll try not to confuse this:
W: I'm hopping in the shower call you later
M: K
My FB messanger goes off:
FBW: She wants me to promise not to call you unless she's around! I'm sorry. Just give me some time. Going to counseler tonight to reaffirm we are doomed.
FBM: oh. ok. I'm going to X-Lake this weekend.
FBW: Tell me that on the phone later. She will be with me when I call!
Commercial Break.
Phone call comes. I answer. We finally get the logistics worked out with the 2 dogs and who's keeping them when. She was so weirdly strange and talking to me like her Best college buddy or something. I hung up and laughed out loud!!! NUTS!
Dramatic music...
Minding my own business my FB messenger goes off again hours later...
FBW: Sorry for the awkwardness on the phone today. Since she read the email I sent... she is on high alert in regards to our communication. I am sorry for that. She is afraid I am going to have an affair with you! lol... how about it? u want to?
LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't resist. I mean come on! W is sitting in the waiting room of a couples therapist, almost 3 weeks after leaving our home, not aloud to communicate with me unless AP is present, her AP is in her alone session before they have a session together and my W is messaging me and flirting. It's just too funny. I responded.
FBM: LOL! Why not? Then I can see what all the fuss is about.
Couldn't help myself. Just couldn't.
Oh.... my tummy hurts from laughing! "LBS becomes OW to her own WAW" I bet if I googled that there's no one else on the planet either! Nothing to process. I'm good. I see it as humorous. It just shows me how incredibly confused the W is. Poor AP... but hey! What goes around...
Alright... I have to pack for my lake trip.
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
WOW!! Your W seems to be the most confused person EVER! Glad you're dealing with all of this okay. Have fun at the lake!
Me: 27 H: 27 Together: 11, M: 3 S 2 BD: 06/24/13 Living together H: EA - unknown current status Read: DB, 5LL (slowly reading DR) Back and forth we go...
Munch....munch.....munch - If only they had this shnit in old school 3D
I would sooooo totally rock those glasses:)
First off, Im jealous...I think I want to move in your area with D3. Do they have some tiny houses that D3 and I could move into and live in the sun and warmth......
Second, you just love yourself a crazy a$$ woman. If this was a choose your own adventure book im choosing the affair.
nuking more popcorn
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
I had a great GAL weekend at the lake with friends!! The W kept up the private messaging. She is using affectionate names, baby, sweetie, etc. She has said she misses me, she loves me, and more.
I needed to get Dog1 from her but the AP said no... you can't be alone with RealityTrip. It's my car and I'm going with you. (W doesn't have car... we used one as a family) I said no to seeing AP. That is a permanent boundary for me. So a friend of mine met them and picked up my dog for me. W was crying and sent me private messages that she had wanted to see me.
So... it's really more of the same. I'm observing. It's curious. She's been there just over 3 weeks. Did the jump in the deep end of the pool and my initiation of divorce proceedings really shock her awake? or is my W addicted to the process and feeling of the affair itself?... not the person? Is her pull to the chemical high reward for sneaking around what has caused the sudden 180 between her affections for the AP and now me?
I'm really trying to stay as emotionally detached and observant as I can, and still be supportive as a friend to her so I am not reciprocating the level of affection she is sending me.
I did check my online health insurance benefits and she did not use our insurance for the couples counseling session that AP took her to...so one must assume they paid out of pocket. That is a relief. I don't know how I would have really handled that.
She messaged me this morning. "Good morning sunshine!..." She told me she is going to be in another city for a few days away from AP and will call me. We'll see. I'm curious to hear her when she does not have AP listening to her every word to me.
School sent me my registration confirmation! Classes start Sept 4th. I still have to do some things to my laptop and I'm still waiting on the finacial aid office to confirm that I'm paid... but I'm on it!
So mucho, mucho work to do in the office it's going to be a big week! But I'm happy with Dog1 & Dog2 at home together again... at least for a while.
Today after work I'm going to take a long walk with Dog1 and get some exercise. I'm looking forward to that... then Vietnamese Pho for dinner!
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
Just read through your thread and wanted to say hello! I'm glad you are able to keep your humor during this long journey. Congrats on starting classes soon! It sounds like your W is very very confused, but you are handling it quite well by staying grounded!
I’ve still got that “ok, not me… but not her either” mentality. Heheheeee! I’ll process that later. I kinda like NOT liking her!