Tad, There are many who jump out of one relationship and into another as soon as the ink is dried on the divorce decree. Mine was one of them. It honestly doesn't matter how long the relationship carried on before they marry. It's how they go about destroying everything in their path to get to that point. I agree w/AJ, i.e., time is not relevant thing to a MLCer. All they are focused on is relief, fun and that illusive happiness. You are divorced, i.e., your xw is now remarried and she will continue to try to contact you until you put a stop to it. The question is...what do you want? Peace of mind or to continue traveling down into the rabbit hole? Tad, the way I see it, she feels that she can contact you now and you will not be looking for any hope/sign of her return.
I'm sorry to hear the news about your mother. It's time to turn your focus back to what is important right now...your mother. You need to spending as much time w/her as you can. Call her every day and treasure that time, take some photos, do some recordings, etc. Those memories will help you when the time comes and she crosses over.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
