Congrats on the fact that you guys are spending time together and working toward something else.

But I must say in regards to the EA and Match.Com let that go. You aren't together YET!!!!! Play the role of the OTHER woman. Think of it this way, he's getting together with you for VALENTINES day. Imagine it this way perhaps. He's cheating on his girlfriend with YOU! Exciting isnt it. Just a little??????? There are no strings attached. He hasn't said that he wanted to go run off and get married again quite yet. Please just have fun and enjoy what is going on rather than trying to over think it. You have an AWESOME opportunity here I think. And I sense that if you allow the EA and the Match.com stuff to come up he will see you as a jealous and immature person. Jealousy and envy will destroy any chance of you ever having a relationship with this person EVERYTIME!!!!! I have seen more would be great relationships destroyed by jealousy (SP)

Please do your best to let it go. Perhaps there is more being read into his CURRENT intent than what is really there. Enjoy it. And if I may be so bold. (Why do people say that when they are going to say whatever it is anyway?) On Valentines do something with him that you had NEVER done in your marriage. Not only will that blow his mind but it will SERIOUSLY make him jealous to the point that he will suddenly start feeling VERY possessive of you. First thing he will think will be where did she learn that???? OMG I want this so much. .... etc. Example perhaps during sexual situations you were quiet, well fill the lungs and let it rip let the vilest most filthy things spew from your mouth. Pretend for that time that you are one of these girls in a porno and go for broke. I hope you get the jist of what I am saying and that I have not offended.

But that is something that YOU have to gauge. I do not know how he would react to something like that. But you sure will. Don't be afraid to be a little out of character and a little wild if you aren't or be more reserved if you are wild. The change will puzzle him to no end.

But overall I would have to say just enjoy being the OW for a little bit and at HIS expense too. I do think that the new perspective will keep you from making any judgement errors and irrevocably damage the relationship you currently are building. And besides you can have a lot more fun that way. Soon enough he will be eating out of your hands. TRUST me on this one I have seen it NUMEROUS times from working in strip-clubs. Guys paying rent for girls they will NEVER have the chance to bed. And it works.

Just have a blast being the OW and act as if the EA doesnt even phase you in the least bit. That will blow his mind to no end. That you didn't even bring it up.

But then again that might just be me and what do I know. I cant even get my W to talk to me. But I hope that it helps you a little bit.

Nothing I do Seems to work!